Heal Generational Trauma to Show Up Authentically on Social Media (Part 1)
Rae's IFS Journey, Session 1 of 5: The Pink Cloud and the Confused Comet
This badass woman walked through a tropical rainstorm, carrying a box full of generational trauma, and buried it in the sand beneath her favorite palm tree.
We had no idea we would end up here.
On her walk to that beach, Rae sent me a WhatsApp message. A dog ran after her. A creepy man followed her. The raindrops were heavy. She kept walking. I listened to the gentle determination in her voice.
Nothing was going to stop her now.
She was marching to the beach to perform a ritual that would help her release two “legacy burdens” — aka some heavy sh*t she’d inherited from religious ancestors.
Rae grew up in a super strict religion that silenced her voice, personality and creative expression. She’d been carrying around their oppressive beliefs in her subconscious FOREVER and she was ready to let go.
Rae is an elite vitality coach living her dream life reading books and drinking coconuts on the beach in Sri Lanka. She’s one of my closest friends and I was thrilled when she felt ready to explore IFS with me.
Rae told me she wanted to show up more authentically on her social media. Parts of her are so excited to share her knowledge online but other parts of her have been stuck, holding back, feeling blocked. She sensed the blockage was related to her childhood trauma.
This was our starting point, the “trailhead”.
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The religion told her to be quiet, suppress her individuality, and follow all the rules. It warned her to obey because she was always being watched and god would punish her if she misbehaved. As a teenager, she snuck around and pushed the boundaries, desperate for self expression and play.
Now Rae is one of the most liberated and playful women I’ve ever met. She inspires me constantly with her warm glowing energy and determination to have fun in life. She’s on a mission to spread joy and help others make life choices that fill them up with passion.
Rae has so much to offer the world but some of her beautiful gifts were still buried, locked away, held back by that lingering generational trauma. In order to heal, Rae needed to rescue parts of herself that were trapped in the past, clinging to those old unhelpful beliefs, unaware that there was another way to live.
Over the course of five IFS sessions, I guide Rae inwards and show her how to navigate through her inner world. We meet some of her parts and begin building trusting life-long relationships with each of them. We bring the parts together and help them understand one another. As trust builds, we get to watch her parts open up and reveal more of their secrets. They allow us to fully witness their painful memories.
Rae intuitively knows how to comfort her parts but I guide her through the process of updating them. Parts always need to be updated. Rae shows them who she is now and what her present life looks like. Through back and forth witnessing, she frees them from being stuck in the past.
In our final two sessions, we go very deep to the core wounds that have been influencing how Rae has been living her life all these years. We touch into her generational traumas (legacy burdens), the wounds that have been passed down from mother and grandmother.
Seeing all of this clearly and holding it with compassion creates space for Rae to create something new. With her parts, she redefines their understanding of spirituality and god. Shd leads them through healing rituals and powerful unburdening ceremonies.
Rae’s parts requested that she bury these legacy burdens in the earth. The first burden was buried beneath a patch of sunflowers. The second was buried in the sand beneath a palm tree. As the burden is released, passed back through the ancestral line, Rae’s parts feel light and are able to dance around and throw a picnic in a sunny meadow.
Rae, incredibly courageous and generous as usual, gave me permission to share the Zoom recordings of the 5 IFS healing sessions we did together. I’ll post them here as a series (of 5) for you to enjoy. If you join us for this journey, it is a blessing to witness, a magical colorful adventure through Rae’s subconscious, imagination, and family history. I hope it brings you healing and smiles of your own.
…and NOW LOOK AT HER crushing it on social media. She’s on fire!
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Rae my darling ray of sparkly love and sunshine,
It has been such a pleasure to support you in this massive stage of your growth. It was a beautiful, charming, honor to walk beside you through this inner adventure. We started with a simple desire to show up and express more freely and now we’re dancing in circles because you’re shining with even more confidence (as if you could get more radiant! haha) and you’ve brought healing to your family. Thank you so much for donating these videos to my online library so others may benefit from your courageous vulnerability. As always, I am continually inspired by your devotion to growing and glowing.
love & rainbows,
chamonix